Wedding Music Myths Couples Still Believe

When planning your wedding, music often feels like the easy part — something you pick last or let fade into the background. But live music does so much more than fill silence, and there are plenty of myths couples still believe about what works, what matters, and how it should all sound. Here’s a closer look at some common misconceptions, and why choosing the right music can transform your day.

“Only certain songs work”

Almost any song can work. It’s all about the arrangement, tempo and moment. Violin can make songs feel timeless, romantic and completely appropriate when played with intention. Choose what you love.

"It's just background music"

Live music sets the emotional tone of the entire day. It guides pacing, fills transitions and heightens key moments. It’s often what guests remember most, even if they can’t explain why.

“Musicians must wear black”

Today’s wedding musicians dress to complement the aesthetic, not distract from it. Soft neutrals, elegant tones, and styling that blends seamlessly into your day are now the norm.

"You have to be close to hear it:

Professional musicians use thoughtful placement and sound support to ensure music carries evenly without overpowering conversation. Good live music feels immersive, not loud.

"Ceremony music doesn't matter"

Live music sets the tone in real time. Musicians adapt to the energy, tempo and emotion, creating a unique soundtrack that a Spotify playlist can’t match.

"Guests don't notice the music"

Guests may not talk about the music, but they feel it. Music influences mood, memory, and how special the day feels long after it ends.

"Live music is an extra"

Music isn’t an add-on. It’s the emotional framework of your day. When chosen well, it elevates everything else you’ve already invested in.